When you fall in love for the first time and begins a relationship seems that anything is possible, that love is invincible and nothing can be changed. But, when it is not the first time that one loves, many fears that can interfere with the process of the relationship, fears that come from previous relationships, broken hearts.
Human beings are social by nature, loves nature and dreams by nature. Many have come to think of love as something innate that one need not be taught as we have the ability to feel, but we should also mention that the way we have to bond with people is a learning process that begins as soon as we are alive with person in our care.
We've all heard more than once that love must be looked after, so that one can be a lazy bum or to other aspects of life but when it comes to a relationship these feelings should not exist, because love is curiosity by knowing the other, the desire to accompany him and share with the day to day, is a vision from the present moment. It is a room with someone from a'm with myself.
We could say that there are many keys to a healthy relationship, but there are three things you could say that is the key and the basis of a long lasting relationship, to be closer to happiness.
Good communication between partners
Every relationship, of any kind whatever, needs good communication to get out ahead.
A relationship could think of it as a way to grow with another person and in turn, a way to grow together emotionally and physically.
Communication is a key aspect allowing us to meet our partner in every way, from those things that have been marked, the scars that may be left over from past relationships (whatever they are) to happy memories, important moments He, etc.
Communication and assertiveness are also essential to oneself can say what bothers the other person, namely setting limits, ask for what you need to say "no" when necessary, etc..
When we refer to this key does not focus only on the fact of speaking, if not have the skills necessary to learn to say them in the best way possible, that when we speak we are not hurting the other person, we know enough to be empathetic and meet our couples to know when is the best time to tell it.
A vital project together
Never mind that "opposites attract" or to make a relationship work only if both people have the same tastes, leave these issues aside and focus on what is truly important.
No fundamental aspect for a long term relationship work is that there is a common life project because once you pass the "temporary insanity" that Freud said, we are adrift in a relationship that seems to have no destination .
No talk of losing the spontaneity that gives the spark to the relationship but we are referring to a common future, a future of dreams together of plans, directions, priorities, goals to be achieved ... A life together , a common project, an essence common to both people.
The intimate life
Sure that more than once you've met someone who believes that sex in a relationship is not important, but the reality is that pleasure in a relationship is something that one must not only suck, but must feel and enjoy.
An intimate relationship is not just a physical approach, is the culmination of the feelings in the body, the expression of love in a time that can be magical and memorable because it is an exchange of tenderness, caresses, sensuality ...
In addition, close relationships also help to release the tensions that may exist in the relationship or beyond. Both men and women may have problems in this field by different aspects and it is important not to turn away from these problems and find the solutions necessary for love and intimacy go hand in hand.
Sex is a perfect game that can help you discover yourself through the other and get to know your partner in a way that you would otherwise be impossible. It's fun, collusion, joy, tenderness, passion, delicacy ...
In closing, I wanted to share with you this phrase Dalai Lama has always seemed a perfect summary of what a healthy relationship:
"To give to you love to fly, roots to return and reason to stay"